Well, let's get to the point. This blog is not about my marriage nor is it about my children, even though most of my very scarce alone hours are spent researching medical documents for the sake of helping my sweet little boy who is labeled as severely Autistic. Unfortunately, I was a Mom who followed the crowd without questioning that a doctor may possibly be wrong and maybe I should think outside of the golden rules. Not a chance, I believed all the hearsay about how vaccines are the best thing for your child and how they have saved many lives. Oh, and we cannot forget the guilt-trip manipulation line that is often engrained in us, that by vaccinating your children you are a being good parent... Like many others, those factitious lines failed in the outcome we received. After my son's last dose of poisonous Kool-Aid called vaccinations that the manufactures, CDC, and most pediatricians swear-by in the name of health, my son was stolen from us at 18 months.
Some people like to refer to Autism as a gift, but I'm not one of them. Exactly like I said, my son was stolen from us and then placed into a world of his own where no one could accompany him; he was unreachable. So learning the truth and dealing with the ugly battles that come with the "vaccines cause autism” debate, I've had my share of my personality and personally beliefs become a part of the target at war.
Everyone has feelings, and some people live their life according to their feelings like they hold some special magical validity. If you feel upset, then you act a certain way, and because you are upset, you believe that your behavior has some kind of justification. I'm going to bust your bubble, mean behavior does not have justification, it just means that you have lost control and now are aiming below the belt. Feelings are not a fact nor should your behavior be acceptable because you are too emotional. Putting it simple, if everything goes your way and everybody believes according to what your point-of-view is, then you are happy and you respond to others in a decent manner. If someone writes something, let's say on their Facebook page, and you are offended because you feel that the person who is writing this is not as emotional as you, you then FEEL (convince yourself) you are allowed to make their life a living hell. You all of a sudden think that name calling and judging can now come rolling off your keyboard, and all the rules of conversing like a polite person takes a backseat.
Let’s come back to certainty. Your feelings are not a reality, they are emotions that need to be controlled by a stable mind. I have come into contact with so many wonderful and helpful people through technology that I honestly wish I knew them personally. They have made my passion in life so much easier because they accept me for who I am, that's right, they accept me. Yes, I'm a Jesus loving, scripture posting, Autism researcher, vaccine warning, YouTube video making, radio talking, determined Mom who exposes all of me. I do not hide behind anything, what I write is the true me. So I embrace all the support from these down-to-earth Mom's that just gracefully understand me, and by being this outspoken, I understand this comes with the other ugly dark side...
Here we go, let's address the negative haters out there. Haters love to try and squash someone who has a strong spirit, so they look and study for that weak point, hoping their target will eventually reveal it so they can begin their devouring. Don't worry, if they cannot find one they will make-up some type of confrontation and twist your words to start one.
Most haters come to the conclusion that in order to slander your reputation, they must pick apart what you are doing in life that differs from the way the majority of the world believes is normal. You stick out because your path is not matching up with everyone else’s. I call it being the salt of the earth, they call it being intolerant. They've got their aim, now they will attack the target by creating a public scene. Let's hit on the one I love, "You're a bimbo and a google Mom." Wow, good one if you’re 5 years old. I'm a "bimbo" because??? I'm married, so you lost on that comment real quick. Ok next, I'm a "google Mom" which I personally take as a compliment. Are you jealous that I know my way around the internet and can recite reliable sources? Yeah, taking journalism in college taught me that, so again, loser comment. If professors teach you how to research and reference videos, evidence, and current events off the internet, it is because the internet is the most applied form of fact-finding there is today.
Let's go on to the really easy target, Christianity. I love getting the, "You don't care about anyone else" comment and being placed into the shame-on-you category. This tactic is used to try to push me into a Christian-corner that in the haters mind, limits my love for all people. Could it possibly be that I just do not believe every lifestyle that is performed in the world is God-made, and that some is actually man-made? If you think that this Christian Mom wants to join sites that are not a part of what I'm practicing in my own life, and you get upset because I'm straight forward in letting you know this is not okay, what gives you the right to become offended and make your own conclusions as to what type of person I am? It's so lovely to read the comeback, "Now I know what kind of person you are!" Umm, take that attitude back to your household because I am not your child to scold.
You see, ugliness does not defeat me nor does it make me miss my cups of coffee each day. No, you can put a nail in that tire because it does not work on a person who only fears the Lord. Discouragement and failure will not penetrate into my brain as if it is a reality. Nope, it's just your feelings, and honestly, that's not my problem. The sun will still rise and my children will still look at me for love and direction during the day… and yep, my husband will still come home from work and make me laugh about who-knows-what, it’s always a great surprise. And well, there you are, the lonely hater that has no control over your ever so changing feelings. Your goal of assuming that people will be dragged down into your negative world in which you live is pathetic. I refuse to let your childish behavior turn me from my blessed reality. Do times get hard? Heck yeah, but that's why we have a thing called a nap, the right to call it an early bedtime for our kids, and getting on your knees to pray that make these times not so hard. In my reality these remedies exist, they're called regrouping. So if you want to hate, I’m not sticking around to caress your head, life’s too short and valuable to me.
I will leave you with this promise from the Lord and hopefully you will decide to jump ship from the hater lifestyle and come aboard the victorious:
Galatians 5:14-15 “Love your neighbor as yourself. If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.”