The title of this blog has become my new life. My new life was unexpected, taught me how to become genuine, showed me what true authentic friendship is, and established my new attitude with a much needed new priority compass. Yes, I threw away all of the mommy made-up rules and began to trust in myself (YAY) by saying, “No, I’m not competing with other moms to be the world’s perfect child-raising parent, while bowing down in compliance to the numerous baby well-visit pediatric guidelines anymore!” Reality is, that this worldly planted set of mommy-rules is just a man-concluded, written psychological achievement chart that is passed onto us parents by doctors and vastly repeated T.V. commercials. Seriously think about it, this is not the Ten Commandments sent down by God, its human judgement based on human philosophy.
Through God’s amazing grace holding me during this painful journey, I learned what it REALLY means to love others before yourself. You see, I honestly thought I had accomplished this when my first child was born, but oh on, I discovered there is even a much deeper level of love you can travel to that can change your soul forever.
This is my experience and my new self being raw, candid, and to the point. I do not get offended easily by the way people word a phrase or deliver their personality, as long as I know they are not trying to be evil, they are just being who God has molded them to be. In saying that, however, I do get very annoyed with those individuals who like to start a problem when there was never a problem to begin with. We only have one very valuable life, so I will do my best, follow God, embrace people along my path, and LAUGH a lot. If you cannot laugh at yourself or with others, unwanted bitterness will begin to live in your mind, so if that’s your nature, please do not send me an invitation, I will decline to partake quicker than you can say Rumpelstiltskin.
Most of you know that I have a vaccine injured severely Autistic son who is 8-years-old. You may call him Autistic, on the Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), vaccine injured, or special needs, I’m really not picky. The one thing I am picky about is that people are aware that my son was and is still injured by vaccinations, he was not born Autistic. This is my son’s experience, so please do not try to change the truth based on your perspective of how Autism enters a child’s life.
When I first became a mother, the little unnecessary goals that we bragged about among our friends were quite meaningless. We would sit around and talk about when we must take away their binky (pacifier), switch them to sippy cups, make them eat with utensils, and the one major milestone that everyone always tried to accomplish first, potty training! Now that was the golden metal prize achievement award that made all the mom’s clap in awe. Gosh, I just realized I was a robotic Stepford Mom!
As you can imagine, when my second child was vaccine injured and lost all his doctor acquired perfectly-listed milestones and drifted into an unreachable place, I was truly stumped. While being completely broken inside, I also personally questioned, “What do I do now that everyone else is exceeding with their children, and my child just went backwards to an infant level?” For about a year, I carried around the feeling that I was no longer on the good mommy list made-up by society since my child was still wearing diapers. We all are ingrained with the worldly set-standards that has people gawking at you, if you have a child past the age of 3 that is not potty trained yet. This is so silly, right? However, I have heard it from other people that if your child is not potty trained by 3, you're a lazy parent ... ouch, back then that hurt my mommy seeking-skilled achievements.
My first instinct (which I did) was to join all kinds of online Autism support groups and ask the same questions over-and-over, inquiring at what age did your child accomplished such-in-such milestone? My mind was still back in that worldly place of people judging my parenting. The moment I found out that vaccinations had injured my child’s brain, gut, and immune system, I began to put myself in his shoes and flushed those ridiculous man-made accomplishments straight down the toilet. I realized I was being extremely petty and missing life’s big picture. I was unintentionally placing superficial expectations on my children, just so I could be identical to other mom’s and fit-in. Wow, me a follower? Yes, I unknowingly was.
You see, I’ve learned that it does not matter when my son becomes potty trained, uses his voice again to form words, is able to walk into a public setting without wanting to touch everything on every self and raise his hands while screaming in means of communication; that is not the important issue. What God has shown me in His faithful guidance, is that the only important issue that needs to be top priority is a child’s health; it is so imperative that we pass on to all parents the need to educate themselves on health and recovery.
Mature parents really do not care what name-brand of diaper bag they are carrying, what designer shoes or clothes they buy for their child (unless they’re on sale at a major discount), or if they have the most up-to-date stroller … sorry moms, that’s your own self-gratification, we all know that a baby will play with a piece of string and be content. Seriously, your baby or toddler really just wants to get down on the ground and play with a string, shoelace, rattler or whatever, and maybe get really experimental and slip around in some food or a spilt drink; you know they don’t worry about what they look like or ruining their clothes. I've personally come to the place of where I enjoy the simplicity of not impressing anyone, so please, I’ll take your hand-me-downs in thankfulness and you can take mine!
From the bottom of my heart, I would like to thank ALL the parents that go out of their way to talk to others about the dangers of Genetically Modified Organisms (GMO), how we should be reading labels, the deadly non-sense theory of vaccinating our little ones, speaking out on what the ingredients are inside these vaccines, and yes, holding your friends around you accountable in the knowledge that by continuing to vaccinate, you are partaking in the act of an abortion that took place. Once they are informed, it is then between that person and the Lord only, you have done your part in speaking truth into them; no judgement just unconditional love remains.
Romans 12:9-10 “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.”
God bless you!